Finding love abroad: Our story (and Paris engagement photos!)

In the summer of 2010, I was as single as could be.

In fact, not only was I not dating, but I was actively avoiding anything resembling such. Over a year before, I’d sworn off relationships and promised myself I’d spend my 20s single so that I could focus solely on myself, my career, and my plans to travel the world.

And then that November, my promise went out the (44th floor) window.

I met my fiancé.

By moving in with him.

Four months after I moved to Singapore, my then-roommate decided to leave and head back to America. Since his company owned his flat, they probably didn’t want me sticking around. I had to find a new place to live.

As luck would have it, I fell in love with the very first apartment I saw.

It was a brand spankin’ new place, on the 44th floor of a 50-story building, with gorgeous views over the city. What wasn’t there to love? And the company — well you couldn’t find a better trio in Singapore.

(The story of how I got ended up joining the flat is a funny one in itself — it involves the apartment bomb shelter — but terribly long. That one’s better told in person.)

My other roommates were a Scottish architect, a British IT manager, and an American Fulbrighter. Neither the Brit nor I needed to move in until the next month, but the four of us got on so well that we would often hang out at the flat every night after work anyway.

And that’s how I got to know the Brit. His name was Mike, and he had just moved to Singapore ten days earlier.

Over the next few weeks, I tried to hang out with him as much as possible. Not because I was interested in him romantically — remember, I’d shut that part of my brain off — but as a serial expat, I knew how hard it could be to make friends in a new city.

So every time I was going out with friends for dinner or drinks, I’d invite him along. After a couple weeks of hanging out in groups, we started hanging out just the two of us. We’d spend entire afternoons just walking through the city together, talking about nothing and everything.

Of course, it didn’t take long for us to realize we had feelings for each other — but we didn’t want to do anything about them because come the first of December, we’d be flatmates. We didn’t want to create an unnecessarily complicated situation (seriously, this flat was amazing. neither of us wanted to jeopardize our place there.) nor did we want to creep out the other two flatmates.

But living together only helped us realize how amazingly compatible we were (both of us are into tech, and lord did we geek out when we first moved in) and our other two flatmates didn’t mind. In fact, despite our adamant denials, they were convinced we were already dating long before we really were.

So less than three weeks after moving in together, we decided to give this thing a chance. Just to see where it would go.

(Our announcement to the flatmates went something like this:

Us: “Hey guys, just to let you know…we’re dating now.”

Them: “Yeah…this isn’t news. You guys have been dating for weeks.”)

Two months later, over the Chinese New Year break, we took our first holiday together — to Bali of all places, possibly the most romanticized island in southeast Asia.

I was slightly terrified — it had only been two months and here we were: sink or swim. If the trip tanked, one of us would likely have to find a new place to live as soon as we got back to Singapore.

But Bali went amazingly well. So did our many trips to Thailand, Vietnam, China, and even a miserable rainforest in Malaysia where I did little else but battle mosquitoes all weekend.

By the end of that first year, we’d been living together longer than we’d been dating, and traveling together for just as long. We couldn’t remember what life was like before we’d met. I couldn’t believe we’d found each other in a country thousands of miles away from our own.

But I knew I had to move on. I didn’t want to stay in Singapore for more than a year — I may have broken my promise to myself to stay single, but I wasn’t going to break the part about traveling all through my 20s.

So I went to Australia for five weeks, and then I moved to Paris in January of this year. We never even had to talk about what would happen to us — we knew we’d stay together, there wasn’t a question about it.

This past May, Mike came to Paris and proposed on my birthday.

We’ll set the wedding date when we’re living together again.

There are so many people out there who say dating while traveling doesn’t work out. Dating another expat doesn’t work out. Dating long-distance doesn’t work out.

I’m sharing our story to tell you that sometimes…it does. 

(Update: we called off the engagement and split up very amicably in the summer of 2013.

However — as I’m once again in a serious relationship with someone I met and dated while traveling, who is a fellow expat, and also endured long-distance for a while — my last statement still holds true and I still stand by it!)

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58 Comments

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    Katie
    December 19, 2012 at 02:12

    You engagement pictures are gorgeous! Thank you for sharing your story. It put a smile on my face. My husband and I met when we were both living in Prague forever ago and neither of us are Czech. You’re exactly right, sometimes these things do just work out.

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    GoYvon
    December 19, 2012 at 04:33

    What a great love story! And such great pictures as well, you guys look really happy together.
    My/our story is somewhat similar. I went to China to travel, not to fall in love. But you can’t stop love… So, now I’ve been together with an American for two years, living in China and moving to Beijing in 2 weeks!

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    cosmoHallitan
    December 19, 2012 at 04:49

    What sweet, wonderful photos! Thanks for sharing them and your romantic love story! This was just the thing to put a smile on my face this morning :)

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    Carrie
    December 19, 2012 at 06:03

    This story makes me grin. :) Thanks for sharing!

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    Paris in Four Months
    December 19, 2012 at 08:40

    Your story is so so sweet :) Thank you so much for sharing! This really made my easy all watery.

    xx Carin

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    Daisy
    December 19, 2012 at 08:47

    Congratulations, Edna! What a wonderful story. Thank you so much for sharing how you met, as well as your beautiful photos!

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    Milsters @ Little Pieces of Light
    December 19, 2012 at 10:45

    That is the sweetest story ever!! And you’re right: sometimes it DOES work out. :) Thanks for sharing this story!

    x Milsters

    (http://www.littlepiecesoflight.com/)

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    Louise
    December 19, 2012 at 10:46

    You’ve set yourself up for a million soppy comments here! But, I shall have to be one of them… such a lovely post xx

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    kristen @thekaleproject
    December 19, 2012 at 15:14

    Happy happy! I already knew this story but it was so nice to read it again. hope you two have a fab christmas and new years!

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    Jess C.
    December 19, 2012 at 15:27

    So lovely. Congrats again to you both :)

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    Diane, A Broad
    December 19, 2012 at 18:59

    This is just the sweetest.

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    k_sam
    December 19, 2012 at 19:03

    Aww, so sweet! Happy anniversary to both of you!

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    Emily in Chile
    December 19, 2012 at 20:26

    I love your story, and the pictures are beautiful! In my case at least one of us was in his home country, but we still dealt with long distance and an international move. I hope you two are reunited more permanently soon.

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    Alex @ ifs ands & butts
    December 19, 2012 at 22:54

    Adored reading this story, too special!

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    Steph - The Event Crashers
    December 20, 2012 at 08:15

    Happy Anniversary, Edna! I love this love story and the last line brought me to tears. I’m so happy for all the success you’ve had since anchoring the ECTV news (haha!) and I love living vicariously though your travels. You’re such an inspiration to anyone who questions following their dreams, and anyone who has a long distance relationship. Any idea *where* that same location will be in the future?

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    Kristin
    December 20, 2012 at 12:23

    A Yank and a Brit who met and fell in love in Singapore, I love it! It reminds me of a couple I know here – an Irishman and a Mexican who met in Japan. What a romantic story. Congratulations on your engagement!

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    Lindsey
    December 20, 2012 at 12:38

    Au contraire, long distance CAN work! Beautiful photos, even if you’re not enamored with Paris, the city certainly provided a memorable backdrop!

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    Lindsey Kent
    December 20, 2012 at 13:28

    Happy Anniversary, Edna and Mike!! It’s been wonderful to get to know you and your beautiful love story. Have a great Christmas together, xoxo.

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    Christine in Spain
    December 20, 2012 at 13:49

    It’s so difficult to keep our promises to ourselves, especially when love is involved! So big props to you for sticking to your guns and making travel a priority.

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    George
    December 20, 2012 at 16:50

    Congratulations! This is the way to stand up to bigots that you discussed in an earlier blog and you will find out that there are plenty in the UK.

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    Lindsey
    December 20, 2012 at 20:47

    What a sweet story! I love that you found your future husband while doing what you love–traveling and living abroad. I hope the same will happen for myself!

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    Amanda @ Farsickness
    December 20, 2012 at 20:54

    Such a sweet story! And beautiful pictures. Hopefully you two will be on the same continent sometime soon :)

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    Ashley of Ashley Abroad
    December 20, 2012 at 21:20

    Congrats on your anniversary! And your engagement photos are the cutest thing I’ve ever seen. Ever.

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    Lil
    December 20, 2012 at 21:47

    Housemate makes good dating strategy? ;)

    Like you, I didn’t have dating in mind when one of my closest friends asked if I’m interested in house sharing with her cousin. We got Pacsed recently and we have also lived together longer than we have been together! My friend and I never see it coming – she didn’t think he’s my type and I was just in my little world of… whatever ;)

    Congrats on your engagement!

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    Rubella
    December 20, 2012 at 22:08

    What an absolutely amazing story, one in a million! Often times when you aren’t looking for love is when it smacks you in the face! Best wishes to you and your Brit :)

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    Emily McGee
    December 20, 2012 at 22:28

    This is so sweet and romantic. Thanks for sharing your story and your gorgeous photos! I met my husband abroad too, and it’s nice to have that shared background together. Congrats on the engagement!

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    Audrey | That Backpacker
    December 21, 2012 at 09:58

    Aww, this is such a sweet story! And I love the picture of you twirling in the blue dress. :)

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    Traveling Mo
    December 21, 2012 at 21:01

    You guys are too cute! I love your story. It completely appeals to the romantic person inside me that I sometimes pretend doesn’t exist. I had similar thoughts. I was going to be single, travel, enjoy my career, maybe date but definitely not be tied down. I came back from a big trip to Europe when I was 19 and immediately found myself in a relationship. Nearly six years later, I’m still in the same one! Almost a year ago we made a big move to a new city together and are still going strong. Definitely not what I had planned, but sometimes life does that to you!

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    Will She Love Paris
    December 22, 2012 at 01:42

    What beautiful photographs! Amazing story Edna, I can really relate to them right now :)
    Wishing you both more amazing memories in the future.
    x, Grace

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    Erin Walton
    December 22, 2012 at 05:06

    Congratulations again!! A beautiful, beautiful story – and gorgeous pics to go with it.

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    Kieu
    December 22, 2012 at 17:35

    That is just the sweetest thing.. hopefully you guys will marry in the same country. Lol

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    Alexa Hart
    December 22, 2012 at 20:25

    Cute story! Similar thing happened to me… My fellow teacher (and now boyfriend) and I started hanging out in Korea and it quickly turned into dating. Been together for over two and half years now!

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    Steph (@ 20 Years Hence)
    December 23, 2012 at 10:02

    What a terrifically romantic tale! So nice to read that for you, love really did conquer all, but no one had to sacrifice any dreams along the way!

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    Julika
    December 23, 2012 at 16:37

    What a wonderful story! I’m also juggling a long-distance relationship and the constant urge to move around, so your love story is such an amazing inspiration how to make it work!
    And your engagement pictures are simply stunning!

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    Marina
    December 23, 2012 at 17:24

    What a sweet post! I love your engagement pictures, too. Cheers to you guys for making it work against the long-distance/early cohabitation odds. I hope you get to spend some quality time together this holiday season!

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    Andrea
    December 24, 2012 at 03:57

    Congrats! Love your photos!!

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    Erica
    December 25, 2012 at 01:24

    finally! I’d gotten some of the bits from Kristen, but finally, the store in full.
    Yay! You two are so adorable and I really admire how to make it work without jeopardizing your career goals, which, I have heard rumors of and really want to chat with you about because they sound exciting! Happy Late Anni and Happy HOlidays :)

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    Lauren
    December 26, 2012 at 01:30

    What a beautiful story. They always say when you least expect it, love finds you. So happy for both of you!

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    Ashley
    December 28, 2012 at 00:10

    Yay! Congrats Edna-such a great story. My dude and I are a Brit and an American who met while in South Korea (and are now married and living in the UK!), and I just love a good long-distance love story:) Beautiful pictures, too!

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    Tess
    December 28, 2012 at 19:45

    Thanks for sharing this story! I have been in a long distance relationship now for 8 years. Engaged since 2006. Great to hear about others it works for. :-) I am in Europe, he is in Australia.

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      Tess
      December 28, 2012 at 19:46

      And we met in Thailand. :-)

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    Cassandra
    December 30, 2012 at 09:27

    Aw, I echo everyone else when I wish you two a hearty congrats!

    What a romantic tale–I’m a sucker for stories where two expats meet outside of their own country :) The same thing happened to me, too, and every day I am thankful for something this special and seemingly impossible. Looking forward to what 2013 has in store for you two!

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    Diane
    January 2, 2013 at 20:49

    Awesome story! Loved reading it. I’m a firm believer that sometimes love finds you when you least expect it. All the best to you both in 2013 and beyond!

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    Michael
    January 6, 2013 at 22:54

    Who doesn’t love this… a little like Lily and I. Only the geriatric version…

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    Vicky | The Golden Bun
    January 12, 2013 at 14:27

    I enjoyed reading your story so much!!! As for me being single right now I feel the same about the need to travel, to work on my career and just enjoy life…

    From Paris with love, Vicky

    The Golden Bun

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    Bethaney - Flashpacker Family
    January 13, 2013 at 01:57

    What a lovely, romantic story. I met my husband by becoming his brother’s flatmate. :)

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    Linda @EcoTraveller
    January 14, 2013 at 16:10

    Congratulations… such a lovely story.
    Love the pics. I wasn’t anywhere near as organised for engagement photos and still lament the fact I didn’t get proper wedding photos! Looks as if you won’t make the same mistake :)

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    arielle
    January 15, 2013 at 19:31

    Lovely story, Congratulations! The photos are absolutely gorgeous! :)

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    Callie
    January 22, 2013 at 05:48

    This is a fantastic story! Great photos too :)

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    Michi
    January 24, 2013 at 17:19

    Beautiful!! Congratulations again, and wishing you both the very best!

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    Earth2Eartha
    February 1, 2013 at 20:48

    Awww, good for both of you! What a great story! Congratulations! :)

    Eartha

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    Jessica
    February 5, 2013 at 10:16

    Congrats! What a cute story. They always say is happens when you least expect it, don’t they? Your engagement photos are really nice.

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    Bob Skelley
    February 24, 2013 at 21:23

    I am proof long-distance relationships can work out. Nice piece!

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    countingducks
    March 21, 2013 at 13:45

    What a lovely, charming and endearing story. I came to your Blog re the post about racism. I’ve been to China and been one of the white guys they poke at because they think you might be a robot or something so I have some idea what you mean.

  • Reply
    Roya
    October 23, 2013 at 00:27

    Such a sweet love story! :) I love your pictures, the love is obvious in your smiles.
    Thank you for sharing.

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